My first pair of Jordan's
When I was a kid I dreamed of playing professional basketball in the NBA. I grew up watching Michael Jordan and the Chicago Bulls. I even owned my first pair of Jordan's in 4th grade. Unfortunately, my dreams of playing in the NBA were crushed by adult realism (maybe it was a lack of talent). The odds of becoming a professional athlete are about a million to one. So far this little article might be a bit depressing but I would like to shine a light on the benefit of giving up.
I believe that everyone possesses a gift or skill set that manifests naturally. More often than not our natural skill set is the thing we enjoy most. Learning what is truly enjoyable is something that takes time and error. Holding onto a novelty of oneself is detrimental and unproductive. I'm not trying to lather on a thick coat of cynicism or tell you to give up on being a musician or award winning actress. But we sometimes build up a vision of ourselves that neglects our own curious impulses to try something new. Our dream or goal is often ill-informed and distorted by a superficial observation.
Focus on one dream or goal illicit tunnel vision to more fulfilling possibilities. Dreams or goals can give a narrow minded view of oneself and can limit true potential. Taking time to pursue something of interest, even though it may have nothing to do with your desired goal, can offer greater insight. Let’s say you want to be an actor but you’re really interested in carpentry. Pursuing your fascination with carpentry will not subtract from your passion for acting. In fact, it could possibly reinforce your love for acting or give you a better understanding of stage or set construction. Letting yourself be free to pursue things outside the scope of your persona will lead to a happier more fulfilling lifestyle.
Growing up, I felt tremendous pressure to like the same things my older brothers liked. Music, movies, sports, etc...My personality even changed to fit their acceptance. As I aged and things grew more frustrating for me I slowly realized how their acceptance was affecting my personality. I started challenging why I liked certain things and asked myself why I was doing certain things. Is this something my brothers would think is cool? Or, is this something they would make fun of? This is not a reflection on them at all. My two older brothers are great and it was my personal issue I needed to work through.
Too often we view a change in interests or careers as a failure. Did I fail at going to the NBA or did my passions and interests change to something I found more fulfilling? Probably a little of both but understanding the importance of following your heart regardless of how it fits to your plan is paramount and crucial to your well-being. Challenge yourself to break down and go after what you really want.